Aging at Home Dementia & Alzheimer's Family Caregiver

It’s a New Year and It’s Time to Stop Judging Yourself!

It’s a New Year and It’s Time to Stop Judging Yourself!

It’s a New Year and It’s Time to Stop Judging Yourself.

If you care for a loved one who needs regular, ongoing assistance, you may feel overwhelmed, frustrated,  angry, or guilty… 

This can lead caregivers to feel hopeless, depressed, experience personal health problems, and even cause neglect of your loved one.

Start the New Year right and cut yourself some slack!

“Taking care of a loved one can be mentally and physically demanding — it’s basically a huge labor of love!


Most people have no clue about the levels of stress, exhaustion and intense love that are a part of caring for a loved one.


It is almost impossible to understand unless ‘you’ve actually been there’ and done it yourself.  It’s also quite easy to start judging yourself and wonder if you can continue giving appropriate care over the long haul.”

It’s a New Year and It’s Time to Stop Judging Yourself!

Bring in the New Year with the Quick Tips below to help improve your mindset.
Family Caregivers – You are not alone!
When you begin to feel better about your caregiving skills, you can create a more positive environment for everyone involved!

Its a new year and its time to stop judging yourself

Check Out The 7 Tips Below to Get Started:

1- Be Aware Of Your Limitations

  • There are only so many things you can handle at one time. Something has to give when you juggle too many responsibilities at once.

Are you raising a family, caring for a loved one AND working full-time? Do you travel for work? Do you have any time for yourself?

When your plate is overflowing with responsibilities, it is important to take a moment to recognize the overwhelm so you can stop judging yourself.


  • Begin by taking a moment to write down all your responsibilities and determine how much you can truly handle. Then, allow yourself to delegate some tasks to others.


  • Asking for help does not make you a bad caregiver!  It can make you a better caregiver and allows you to be more focused on giving the loving, attention and care they need.


2- Focus On The Positive – Notice Any Negative Self-talk

  • The way you talk to yourself matters – a lotDid you know… if you have negative thoughts about yourself as a caregiver, your caregiving ability can actually diminish?


  • Positive self-talk reduces negativity, anxiety and increases your happiness and belief in yourself.  Take a moment to remind yourself about all the things that you do well!


3- Do Not Compare Your Situation To Others

  • Avoid comparing your situation to others – it typically lead to you feeling “not good enough” as a caregiver. Most of us are our own harshest critic – Let That Go!


  • Each caregiving situation is different, so focus on what you’re doing right! This can lift your mood and the mood of loved ones around you. Remember, caregiving can be like a marathon – so, pace yourself and focus on what YOUR situation needs.


  • If necessary, make some changes to your routine like delegating tasks or look for respite care.


4- Focus on Your Strengths and Keep Learning

  • Stay focused on tasks you are good at and learn new techniques & skills as you go. Some people are better at some tasks or skills than others – and that’s okay! 


  • Divvy up the caregiving tasks based on each family caregivers’ strengths and delegate your loved ones care accordingly.


5- Talk to Other Family Caregivers

  • Consider joining a Family Caregiver Support Group – talk to the group leaders and other caregivers. Learn how they cope with being self-critical, ask about solutions or techniques they have tried and learn new skills. 


  • The more support, understanding and ideas you learn from other caregivers, the easier it is to treat yourself with kindness – and that turns into being a more positive and skilled caregiver!


6- Check out the Family Caregiver Toolbox from the Caregiver Action Network (CAN)

  • Founded in 1993, CAN is a non-profit organization providing education, peer support, and resources to family caregivers across the country free of charge.


  • The organization works to improve the quality of life for the more than 90 million Americans who care for loved ones with chronic conditions, disabilities, disease, or the frailties of old age.



7- Consider Hiring an In-Home Care Agency for Respite Care, Companion Care or More

  • When you have time to relax, regroup and do something for yourself, it can reduce some of the pressure and anxiety you may feel as a Family Caregiver.


  • The highest quality care begins with an Agency that hires the right staff and ensures the highest quality client care possible. They will also offer Ongoing Training to Client’s Families and their caregiving staff to continually improve caregiver skill sets!

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